Dr. Laura Berman, our Relationship Therapist shared some tips to keep a healthy long distance relationship.
I have been in a LDR for almost a year now. It is definitely the hardest thing I have ever done.
I am in the US. She is in the Philippines. I traveled 8000 miles to see her for the first time at about the 5 month mark, We were married while I was there. We are currently working on getting her spousal visa s she can come to the US.
There is no question of love or trust.. The distance can be brutal.we make it work by making sure we see each other everyday on Skype. We post on each others FB page. Of course we text on talk on the phone.
We are still approx 5 months until our visa is approved. in the meantime we just take it day by day.
I love you Po.
Debra Ayemere Nicholas
Hi Steve me and my husband date for two yrs he live logas nigeria I went to Nigeria in March 27 2012 we got married May 19 2012 my plan was to
live there forever but my son got sick so I had to come back to the United state to take care of my son on sad note I had to leave my husband and stepdaughter there cos we didn’t have time to work out the paperwork now that Iam back in the united state came back in June 27 2012 four month late my passway October 3 2012 .now that Iam here in untied Sate my husband and daughter is still in nigeria we still together but now I don’t have the fund to bring them both to American the job I have don’t pay much money cos iam still pay for my son funeral that is why could u tell me wat do Steve
Yes,it is hard as we’d love to cuddle daily . Each time we meet it is a love affair, over and over again.
The success to our long distance relationship is communication, trust and God between us. We dated for several years and recently got married. He knew from the beginning ,due to my profession I did not want to relocate. He loves the texting and I needed to hear his voice daily. In order to make us both happy we talk on the phone daily.
It’s the hardest!!!
I am on my second LD relationship the first one was a disaster, however I was in love and stayed in it way to long after things went south…and there were serious communication and Trust issues! Ugh just thinking about it! Now I’m on my second LD relationship and I have found my soulmate….this is the best relationship I have ever had, no trust issues, we talk everyday and text each other throughout the day…we see each other at least every 4 months. We are still working on being in the same place, but we are happy and in love….
I not only think they can work but I know. I have been separated from my husband so many times I am unable to count on my fingers due to all the deployments. You just have to have faith in God that it will work out. I know because tomorrow 10 years YES !!!!!! we are still together nothing but God
Yes it can!!!
Nahhhhhhhh not for me!!!!!
I agree with the Dr. but it also depend on how mature you are.
Long distance can work as long as both of u work at it. Especially if u love each other very deeply
I KNOW long distance relationships work. My fiance and I have been in a long distance relationship for 14 months. It’s all about communication, trust and honesty. We still have another year of seperation before he retires. He is in AZ and I am in DC. We make it a point to not go 3 months without one of flying out to see the other. It is a 24/7 job.
IT CAN DEF WORK. COMMUNICATION IS KEY! ;D
Yes I think they can last I met my husband online he was in the US and I was in the UK we talked online everyday then in Feb 2010 I came over here to meet in person for 14 days after that we decided to be together so I moved over here and we got married in oct 2010 we now have two kids together. It took me 35 years to find him but I’m so happy!
it just makes sence not to. W want it to work so bad. we belive that it will. it starts to dwindle down and then the trust. I mean if you are not going to be away that long.It just seems to happen.we get comfortable were we are and the job is going well and their is the family. they don’t want to go to him and then he decides the same and u both don’t want to admit it. what do you do then. I know because that’s were I am now.
They CAN work if the two people are committed and work at it! My husband Bob and I had a long distance relationship for 6 years while I completed both my undergraduate and graduate degrees. Trust is a BIG factor. This June we will celebrate our 28th wedding anniversary. It was well worth the wait!
I think it depends on ther person.
Yes I do believe they can work. Spending time on the phone talking about everything is key. You can be afraid to not address an issue or duscuss hiw you truly feel. I think a long distance relationship builds character and trust. Along with that you must be open minded and mature.
Sorry, lots of misspelled and pronounciation in the last commet. I’m in a long distance relationship. It’s going great so far. That’s what I was trying to say. Forgiveness for my bad grammar.
I think it can work. It’s all about “trust”. That’s a big issue. I’m orient lay in a long long term distance relationship. So far so good. Very soon we’re going to see each other. But as a woman, I still have to wonder, did he?? But in the long, I think it works for most people . S.Moore
Yes I do. Before my husband and I were married, we had a long distance relationship for 8 months. We were over 2600 miles apart. It was hard but we communicated via phone every day. He is military so it was hard for him to find time to call but he did. Overall, our relationship and marriage is based off of communication which makes our bond even stronger. If both parties are willing to work at it, it wil work definitely.
Hi Steve, My name is Catherine Brown. I want to talk about long distance relationships. They are HARD, but not impossible. Watching your show today, I reflected back on my own relationship. The couple you had on the show this morning seem to love each other, but I’m not sure if both of them are in love “enough” to do what it may take. I met my husband in Jamaica while I was on vacation. He was a staff at my resort, where my friend and I were staying. I felt it was love at first sight, which I never believed in until that moment. We had an excellent week together, and then continued to have phone contact after that trip. I went back to see him a month later to see how we “really” felt about each other. At the end of that trip, we decided that it was “real” after all, and worth pursuing. We didn’t feel long distance could work for too long, so we filed a petition with immigration requesting marriage consent. We had heard it could take years. Well, we were approved by immigration in two months…surprise! We were given 90 days for him to move to the US and complete our wedding, and file our marriage certificate with immigration. As you can guess, all of our friends and family had serious concerns. Well, he was living in Providence, RI 4 months after we met for the first time, and we were married within 6 months. This year is our ten year anniversary and we have four children. We have a wonderful family, and we have never had this experience if we didn’t think it was worth taking the risk. It was the BEST decision I ever made! My husband are very close, and still enjoy each other’s company so much. I want to tell people to take a risk! Life is short…..You can never know unless you try. 2013 is a HUGE milestone for my family and I am glad to have this opportunity to share it with you and others. We hope to go to Jamaica to do a ten year vow renewal, since his family was unable to obtain visas from the US embassy to travel here for our wedding. With our current family of six, this is going to be challenging but it continues to be our dream. IF you find our story interesting and want to share our story and help us celebrate, it would be a dream come true! Regardless, you remain our favorite show and always bring a bright start to my morning! We love you Steve, from Gregory and Catherine Brown!
Wow! 10 years! Congratulations!
And I can vouch- never known a couple more in love who has and will fight until the ends of the earth for what they believe in and for their family. Love you Katie!
Yes Antione Harvis I agree everyone needs to spend quality time with each other to see each other in their environment. We need to see how each other are during sick/bad times as well as “Happy” times and that gives us all the sense of how well we can get along with others during any situation that comes our way..
I think that long distance relationships can be tricky. I believe that it is imperative to spend some time around a person and have opportunities to observe them in everyday life circumstances. I think most people tend to put their best foot forward initially in relationships and we need to allow them time to get comfortable and be how they truly are at that moment in life before we make long term commitments. They can work if we’re honest with ourselves.
as with “meeting” on the internet. You can be anyone, or pretend to be.
I have this couple beat for long distant relationship. My girlfriend lives in Tokyo and I live in Peoria Ill. I met her about two years befor I retired from the military at Yokota AB Japan. We had planned on getting married but just as I retired in 2008 the economy took the dive. Prospects for job back in Japan dried up. So I have flow there three time in four years to be with her during her vaction time. Emails every day and phone calls to her once a week. We kep the faith that things will work out and we will be together.
Faith is a big key in any relationship. Faith is the essence of things hoped for, but the evidence of Sincerity, Devotion, Honesty, Fidelity and especially LOYALTY. I congratulate you Mr. Peak on the bondage you and your wife have. I wish Peace and the Utmost of Blessings to Be Upon You both.
Communication, communication, communication. Love is Life and Life is Love. But that garden that is necessary for the bondage to be one in unification, will not manifest to flourish and grow without Sincerity, Devotion, Fidelity, Honesty & most importantly LOYALTY to maintain communication not do much so by text and facebook, but more do by the sound of the voice. Yet that communication must uphold the 5 previous mentioned aspects.
Long distance relationships can work! My husband and I met a church when he was home for the summer. He was a professional basketball player in Europe! We dated for a month and then he was off to Austria for 9 months. We dated via Skype, email, and text. When he came home he bought me a car and proposed 2 weeks later! We’ve been married now 2 1/2 years. He is my best friend and the love of my life!
Sadly I missed Dr. Berman’s segment today but I did see this Video. I also have been in a Long distance relationship for a year and 1/2 and we are constantly in touch on a daily basis, several times a day, and we have discussed a future together and where we will live as he will be retiring from his main job in early 2014.. I can say this I was skeptical at first as we were dating because of being able to Trust. But it has worked out and I feel and Hope things will continue on the right path…
I totally Agree. I have been in a long distance relationship for 19 months. the only issues we have ever had, have revolved around a bad decisions he made. Letting a Female he meet after me stay with him for a few months. Without me knowing and after I said I was not comfortable with the thought of helping her like that.
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